Coping with Caregiver Anger
Caregiver Anger is a predictable and normal response to circumstances over which we have little or no control
Whether you are a family caregiver or a professional caregiver, the question is not whether or you will get angry, because you will. The real question is: How do you want to cope with it?
The number of situations, people and events with with with which you can become upset are practically limitless. Family caregivers get angry at the disease. They get angry with their care receivers, with the medical community, insurance companies, the Veteran’s Administration, siblings and children. They also get angry with themselves for not always being as patient, kind and loving as they wish they could be.
Professional caregivers get angry about their huge workloads and the mounds and mounds of paperwork that have to be completed. They get angry with their care receivers’ family members, as well as their own family members. They get mad at their supervisors, their care receivers who refuse to cooperate and with co-workers who don’t carry their share or the load or who show up late or call in sick when they are needed the most. And like family caregivers, they get upset with themselves for getting angry.
Anger is a Part of the Caregiver Journey
Regardless of whether you’re a family caregiver or a professional caregiver, it’s important to understand and accept that anger is normal. Don’t beat yourself up for experiencing the emotion. The important thing is to have a strategy for managing anger that won’t end up causing harm to yourself or to your care receiver.
In addition to the circumstances that make caregivers mad, most people who are providing care for those who cannot care for themselves also experience what I call the “3 F’s of Flipping Out”, which are Fatigue, Fear and Frustration.
Click on this link to watch a caregiver video on how fatigue, fear and frustration contribute to caregiver anger: 3 F’s of Flipping Out
Click here to see how Wikipedia defines Anger