Refuse Negative Thinking

365 Messages of Hope, Humor & Heart for Caregivers – #8

refuse-negative-thinkingOur priest proudly displayed a plaque in his office that read, “I refuse to gratify the devil by becoming discouraged.” I laughed when I first saw it, but after thinking about it for a while, I realized there is a tremendous amount of power in the word “Refuse”, and I decided to embrace it.

When you’re a caregiver, it takes a tremendous amount of effort to stay positive, especially when you are witnessing the steady and progressive decline of someone you love.

However, regardless of our difficulties and losses, we still have the ability to choose how we will think and how we will respond to any situation. We have the power to accept, and we also have the power to refuse certain things.

This is my “Refuse” list:


  • I refuse to focus on the things that are wrong in my life rather than all of the things that are right.
  • I refuse to spend time with people who are negative, mean spirited, or small minded.
  • I refuse to put any age restrictions on what I can still learn and accomplish.
  • I refuse to think that just because I’m just one person I can’t make a difference.
  • I refuse to believe I’m not strong enough to face whatever challenges lie ahead.

Today I’d like to invite you to make a list of the things you refuse to do. I hope, like me, you’ll find a sense of power and control in knowing what you will do as well as what you won’t do.