Three Things That Will NEVER Work!
Communicating with people who are living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia can be extraordinarily difficult. There are a lot of strategies caregivers can employ to make it easier, but you should know that there are three things that will NEVER work. The Three DON’TS of Dementia are:
1. Don’t argue. You will not win. Arguing will just make them more agitated and upset.
2. Don’t try to talk them out of it. Rationalizing and reasoning will not work. Whatever they are experiencing in the current moment is as real to them as your reality is to you. Trying to convince them otherwise is futile, and it will leave both of you upset and frustrated.
3. Don’t pressure them to remember. They can’t. Alzheimer’s is a thief that steals memories, skills and abilities. Once those are gone, they cannot be recreated or reconstructed. Pressuring them to remember will only make them feel frustrated, upset, and like a failure.
One more thing – DON”T think you can fix, control or change it. Alzheimer’s never stops stealing. Lori LeBey with Alzheimer’s Speaks says there are only three things that matter when you are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s:
1. Keep them happy
2. Keep them safe
3. Keep them pain free
Nothing else matters.
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