JOURNEY
JOURNEY
My friend Barbara was a young newlywed when her mother suffered a debilitating stroke and she became a full-time caregiver. Several years later, on the verge of collapse, she went on a weekend spiritual retreat.
The leader of the retreat told her, “You cannot take on someone else’s suffering.” He said, “You can be kind. You can be supportive. You can make choices that help make your mother stay comfortable, but cannot do her suffering for her.”
That statement helped Barbara realize that she didn’t cause her mother’s stroke. She became aware that it was not within her power to reverse the damage or restore her mother to health. She learned to not let her mother’s life become her life. Barbara continued to make sure her mother had the physical […]